Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Nikah is Sunnah



Agree 100%.

Before getting married, I set a budget on how much we should spent and we went for it. I never wanted a grand wedding, never liked them and since my mother was no longer around, it defeats the purpose of having one. So we agreed on a ROMM 'Akad Nikah' and a small 'kenduri' (feast) for our close family members.

I have to admit, temptation was vast and everywhere. Despite telling only a few key people, things always pop up, do I want this, do we want that, can we afford this. Fortunately the husband was at hand to always remind me to keep it simple.

Alhamdullillah, we manage to nail it on target, I even manage to splurge a little on henna, make up and outfits with the 'Akad Nikah' going smoothly.

Of course we had friends who were disgruntled that they were not invited on our special day. To date we are still not speaking unfortunately, but, if you think you were special, what about my childhood friend? What about the buddy who was there for me? What about this person who founded my career? If I invite 1, I would have to invite the other 5. So who is special and who is not?

And then when we had our kenduri, we had people questioning why did we had it after 'Maghrib', why not earlier? Why this? Why that? How come I don't have this? Or that? It took a lot out of me to not respond and be as gracious as possible. To clarify, we chose Saturday, after 'Maghrib' because it was the weekend, and some people still had to work in the day, so we pushed it back to accommodate as many as we could.

At the end of the day, I was always reminded by my husband - we never took a single penny from anyone to fund our marriage, nor did we beg for money. We make do with what we had and we never asked for more. People can make so many comments but it is not like they were paying for the event anyway. We fulfil our deed and thats what matters most. So at the end of the day, it was never between them and us and BUT us and Him. We do within our means, not over the budget and not having to start marriage life, berhutang (in debts).

Objective secured - and we never look back. Do what you can, within means. Don't have to do a grand wedding just because you're embarrassed to not keep up with the times. Ask yourself, as you check your credit card bills, will there be anyone asking you, "How are you managing? Do you need help?"

Remember, "Tabiat membazir adalah saudara syaitan." So keep it within your means and start marriage with positivity. In sha Allah.. Hingga ke Jannah. Amin..

Thursday, January 15, 2015

That Journalist In Me


I never did get around to doing what I wanted to do. I never got around to journalism. I never did get around to writing. I thought someday I would publish a book or two. Never did. The furthest I got was my online blog and a Twitter account. Instagram and Facebook so does not count when all I do is troll people on it.

In school, I was often praised for my writing skills. "Keep it up and you will get to somewhere." says Mrs Emily Cheng. Years went by and I am still at the same spot. I never got around to composing poems. I never shut down anyone's business with my sharp satirical writing skills. I never did a grand expose and I sure as hell never did get to write about the number of shades Gray has.

Over the years I have also stopped writing in my blog. While I used to fill my blog with funny anecdotes weekly, I have somehow only manage an entry once a month. Even then I struggle with a topic. What do I bitch about today. What quotes should I enlighten my readers with.

And readers. Ahhh.. My readers.

How the numbers have dwindled. From a decent number weekly, it has now dropped to 1. Sometimes 2. My blog which used to generate traffic is now meeting her death and I don't seem to worry that much. If any, it still serves as a venue for me to rant and bitch about my ups and downs. Which was its main role anyway.

Anyway, back at my dreams.

So I never did get around to journalism. At 30+, it has now become impossible for me to achieve that path. Heck, it has become impossible for me to achieve any path right. I am re-entering working life in a different angle and boy oh boy.. It sure has not been easy.

What about you guys? Did you manage to go after the dream job that you guys were craving for when you were young? How successful are you at it?


Monday, January 12, 2015

Mudahnya Wanita Mendapat Pahala dan Syurga Allah s.w.t

Bagi wanita yang bekerjaya walaupun penat dengan tugas-tugas di pejabat dan di rumah, ingatlah bahawa mudahnya para wanita terutamanya berstatus isteri mendapat pahala. Kejarlah ganjaran di akhirat kelak.


1. Seorang wanita yang jahat adalah lebih buruk daripada 1000 orang lelaki yang jahat.

2. Dua rakaat solat daripada wanita hamil lebih baik daripada 80 rakaat solat wanita yang tidak hamil.

3. Wanita yang beri susunya kepada anaknya mendapat satu pahala daripada setiap titik susu yang diberikannya.

4. Apabila suami pulang ke rumah dalam keadaan letih dan isteri layan dengan baik akan mendapat pahala jihad.

5. Seorang isteri yang habiskan malamnya dengan tidur yang tidak selesa kerana menjaga yang sakit dapat pahala seperti membebaskan 20 orang hamba.

6. Isteri yang melihat suami dengan kasih sayang dan suami pula melihat isteri dengan penuh kasih sayang, Allah s.w.t. akan pandang dengan penuh rahmat.

7. Wanita yang menyebabkan suaminya keluar di jalan Allah s.w.t. dan kemudian menjaga rumahtangganya akan masuk syurga 500 tahun lebih awal daripada suaminya dan jadi ketua kepada 70 000 Malaikat dan bidadari. Wanita itu akan dimandikan dalam syurga lalu menunggu suaminya sambil menaiki kuda yang dibuat dari permata Yaqut.

8. Wanita yang tidak cukup tidur pada malam hari kerana menjaga anak yang sakit akan diampun oleh Allah s.w.t. seluruh dosanya dan bila dia hiburkan hati anaknya Allah s.w.t. memberinya 12 tahun pahala ibadat.

9. Wanita yang memerah susu binatang dengan bacaan “Bismillah” didoakan oleh binatang itu dengan doa keberkatan.

10. Wanita yang menguli tepung dengan “Bismillah” Allah s.w.t. akan berkatkan rezekinya.

11. Wanita yang menyapu lantai dengan berzikir dapat pahala seperti menyapu lantai Baitullah.

12. Wanita yang menjaga solat, puasa dan taat pada suami, Allah s.w.t. mengizinkannya masuk syurga dari mana-mana pintu yang ia kehendaki.

13. Pahala bagi wanita hamil adalah seperti berpuasa pada siang hari dan beribadat pada malam hari.

14. Wanita yang bersalin akan dapat pahala 70 tahun solat dan puasa dan setiap kesakitan pada satu uratnya Allah swt. akan beri satu pahala haji.

15. Sekiranya wanita itu meninggal dunia dalam masa 40 hari selepas bersalin ia dikira mati syahid.

16. Apabila seorang wanita yang menyusukan anaknya yang menangis diwaktu malam dengan sabar, dia dapat pahala satu tahun sembahyang dan puasa.

17. Kalau wanita menyusui anaknya sampai cukup tempoh 2 suku tahun maka malaikat di langit datang bawa khabar gembira bahawa syurga wajib bagi kamu.

18. Kalau isteri layan suami tanpa khianat dapat pahala 12 tahun solat.

19. Wanita yang picit suami tanpa disuruh dapat pahala 7 tola emas manakala isteri yang picit suami bila disuruh akan dapat pahala 7 tola perak.

20. Wanita yang meninggal dunia dengan dapat keredhaan suaminya, dia akan masuk syurga.

21. Seorang wanita solehah lebih baik daripada 70 orang lelaki yang soleh.

22. Jika suami mengajar satu masalah agama pada isterinya dia akan dapat pahala 80 tahun ibadat.

23. Semua orang akan dipanggil untuk melihat wajah Allah swt di akhirat tetapi Allah swt sendiri akan datang pada wanita yang memberati auratnya iaitu yang memakai purdah di dunia ini dengan istiqamah (tetap).

24. Seorang isteri yang menyambut baik kedatangan suaminya yang dalam keadaan marah, Allah swt beri kepadanya setengah pahala jihad.

25. Allah swt berkati dalam rezeki bila seorang wanita memasak dengan zikir Bismillah.

26. Allah swt akan melaknati wanita yang sengaja mendedahkan auratnya kepada lelaki yang bukan muhrimnya.

Nikah is Sunnah



Agree 100%.

Before getting married, I set a budget on how much we should spent and we went for it. I never wanted a grand wedding, never liked them and since my mother was no longer around, it defeats the purpose of having one. So we agreed on a ROMM 'Akad Nikah' and a small 'kenduri' (feast) for our close family members.

I have to admit, temptation was vast and everywhere. Despite telling only a few key people, things always pop up, do I want this, do we want that, can we afford this. Fortunately the husband was at hand to always remind me to keep it simple.

Alhamdullillah, we manage to nail it on target, I even manage to splurge a little on henna, make up and outfits with the 'Akad Nikah' going smoothly.

Of course we had friends who were disgruntled that they were not invited on our special day. To date we are still not speaking unfortunately, but, if you think you were special, what about my childhood friend? What about the buddy who was there for me? What about this person who founded my career? If I invite 1, I would have to invite the other 5. So who is special and who is not?

And then when we had our kenduri, we had people questioning why did we had it after 'Maghrib', why not earlier? Why this? Why that? How come I don't have this? Or that? It took a lot out of me to not respond and be as gracious as possible. To clarify, we chose Saturday, after 'Maghrib' because it was the weekend, and some people still had to work in the day, so we pushed it back to accommodate as many as we could.

At the end of the day, I was always reminded by my husband - we never took a single penny from anyone to fund our marriage, nor did we beg for money. We make do with what we had and we never asked for more. People can make so many comments but it is not like they were paying for the event anyway. We fulfil our deed and thats what matters most. So at the end of the day, it was never between them and us and BUT us and Him. We do within our means, not over the budget and not having to start marriage life, berhutang (in debts).

Objective secured - and we never look back. Do what you can, within means. Don't have to do a grand wedding just because you're embarrassed to not keep up with the times. Ask yourself, as you check your credit card bills, will there be anyone asking you, "How are you managing? Do you need help?"

Remember, "Tabiat membazir adalah saudara syaitan." So keep it within your means and start marriage with positivity. In sha Allah.. Hingga ke Jannah. Amin..

That Journalist In Me


I never did get around to doing what I wanted to do. I never got around to journalism. I never did get around to writing. I thought someday I would publish a book or two. Never did. The furthest I got was my online blog and a Twitter account. Instagram and Facebook so does not count when all I do is troll people on it.

In school, I was often praised for my writing skills. "Keep it up and you will get to somewhere." says Mrs Emily Cheng. Years went by and I am still at the same spot. I never got around to composing poems. I never shut down anyone's business with my sharp satirical writing skills. I never did a grand expose and I sure as hell never did get to write about the number of shades Gray has.

Over the years I have also stopped writing in my blog. While I used to fill my blog with funny anecdotes weekly, I have somehow only manage an entry once a month. Even then I struggle with a topic. What do I bitch about today. What quotes should I enlighten my readers with.

And readers. Ahhh.. My readers.

How the numbers have dwindled. From a decent number weekly, it has now dropped to 1. Sometimes 2. My blog which used to generate traffic is now meeting her death and I don't seem to worry that much. If any, it still serves as a venue for me to rant and bitch about my ups and downs. Which was its main role anyway.

Anyway, back at my dreams.

So I never did get around to journalism. At 30+, it has now become impossible for me to achieve that path. Heck, it has become impossible for me to achieve any path right. I am re-entering working life in a different angle and boy oh boy.. It sure has not been easy.

What about you guys? Did you manage to go after the dream job that you guys were craving for when you were young? How successful are you at it?


Mudahnya Wanita Mendapat Pahala dan Syurga Allah s.w.t

Bagi wanita yang bekerjaya walaupun penat dengan tugas-tugas di pejabat dan di rumah, ingatlah bahawa mudahnya para wanita terutamanya berstatus isteri mendapat pahala. Kejarlah ganjaran di akhirat kelak.


1. Seorang wanita yang jahat adalah lebih buruk daripada 1000 orang lelaki yang jahat.

2. Dua rakaat solat daripada wanita hamil lebih baik daripada 80 rakaat solat wanita yang tidak hamil.

3. Wanita yang beri susunya kepada anaknya mendapat satu pahala daripada setiap titik susu yang diberikannya.

4. Apabila suami pulang ke rumah dalam keadaan letih dan isteri layan dengan baik akan mendapat pahala jihad.

5. Seorang isteri yang habiskan malamnya dengan tidur yang tidak selesa kerana menjaga yang sakit dapat pahala seperti membebaskan 20 orang hamba.

6. Isteri yang melihat suami dengan kasih sayang dan suami pula melihat isteri dengan penuh kasih sayang, Allah s.w.t. akan pandang dengan penuh rahmat.

7. Wanita yang menyebabkan suaminya keluar di jalan Allah s.w.t. dan kemudian menjaga rumahtangganya akan masuk syurga 500 tahun lebih awal daripada suaminya dan jadi ketua kepada 70 000 Malaikat dan bidadari. Wanita itu akan dimandikan dalam syurga lalu menunggu suaminya sambil menaiki kuda yang dibuat dari permata Yaqut.

8. Wanita yang tidak cukup tidur pada malam hari kerana menjaga anak yang sakit akan diampun oleh Allah s.w.t. seluruh dosanya dan bila dia hiburkan hati anaknya Allah s.w.t. memberinya 12 tahun pahala ibadat.

9. Wanita yang memerah susu binatang dengan bacaan “Bismillah” didoakan oleh binatang itu dengan doa keberkatan.

10. Wanita yang menguli tepung dengan “Bismillah” Allah s.w.t. akan berkatkan rezekinya.

11. Wanita yang menyapu lantai dengan berzikir dapat pahala seperti menyapu lantai Baitullah.

12. Wanita yang menjaga solat, puasa dan taat pada suami, Allah s.w.t. mengizinkannya masuk syurga dari mana-mana pintu yang ia kehendaki.

13. Pahala bagi wanita hamil adalah seperti berpuasa pada siang hari dan beribadat pada malam hari.

14. Wanita yang bersalin akan dapat pahala 70 tahun solat dan puasa dan setiap kesakitan pada satu uratnya Allah swt. akan beri satu pahala haji.

15. Sekiranya wanita itu meninggal dunia dalam masa 40 hari selepas bersalin ia dikira mati syahid.

16. Apabila seorang wanita yang menyusukan anaknya yang menangis diwaktu malam dengan sabar, dia dapat pahala satu tahun sembahyang dan puasa.

17. Kalau wanita menyusui anaknya sampai cukup tempoh 2 suku tahun maka malaikat di langit datang bawa khabar gembira bahawa syurga wajib bagi kamu.

18. Kalau isteri layan suami tanpa khianat dapat pahala 12 tahun solat.

19. Wanita yang picit suami tanpa disuruh dapat pahala 7 tola emas manakala isteri yang picit suami bila disuruh akan dapat pahala 7 tola perak.

20. Wanita yang meninggal dunia dengan dapat keredhaan suaminya, dia akan masuk syurga.

21. Seorang wanita solehah lebih baik daripada 70 orang lelaki yang soleh.

22. Jika suami mengajar satu masalah agama pada isterinya dia akan dapat pahala 80 tahun ibadat.

23. Semua orang akan dipanggil untuk melihat wajah Allah swt di akhirat tetapi Allah swt sendiri akan datang pada wanita yang memberati auratnya iaitu yang memakai purdah di dunia ini dengan istiqamah (tetap).

24. Seorang isteri yang menyambut baik kedatangan suaminya yang dalam keadaan marah, Allah swt beri kepadanya setengah pahala jihad.

25. Allah swt berkati dalam rezeki bila seorang wanita memasak dengan zikir Bismillah.

26. Allah swt akan melaknati wanita yang sengaja mendedahkan auratnya kepada lelaki yang bukan muhrimnya.